Books


These books are among the many that have been significant in shaping my thinking and inspiring me. I hope you find them meaningful and useful, as well. You will find the books sorted by the following categories.

RelationshipsTrauma & RecoveryHappiness & Self-CompassionParentingCreating New HabitsCo-DependencyAnxiety TimeSpirituality & Self HelpSimplifying, Organizing & CreativityTechnology & the Brain

Relationships

Mating in Captivity
Ester Perel

The State of Affairs 
Ester Perel

Getting the Love You Want
Harville Hendrix Ph.D And Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D

Come as You Are
Emily Nagoski Ph.D.

The Time Bind
Arlie Russell Hochschild

The Sex-Starved Marriage
Michele Weiner Davis

Difficult Conversations
Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, Shelia Heen

Attached: The New Science for Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love
Amir Levine and Rachel Heller

The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
Brené Brown

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts
Gary Chapman

Trauma / Recovery

Broken Open
Elizabeth Lesser

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
Bessel van der Kolk M.D.

Victims No Longer
Mike Lew

When Things Fall Apart
Pema Chodron

It's My Life Now: Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence

Meg Kennedy Dugan and Roger R. Hock PhD

Healing the Trauma of Domestic Violence: A Workbook for Women

Mari McCaig MSW and Edward S. Kubany PhD

Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

Lundy Bancroft

The Seeker's Guide

Elizabeth Lesser

Happiness & Self-Compassion

Authentic Happiness :  Using the New Positive Psychology to Realize Your Potential for Lasting Fulfillment 
Martin E.P. Seligman  

Real Happiness: Proven Paths for Contentment, Peace, and Well-Being
Jonah Paquette Psy.D

The Happiness Toolbox: 56 Practices to Find Happiness, Purpose & Productivity in Love, Work, and Life
Jonah Paquette

Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself
Dr. Kristin Neff

Self-Compassion Workbook
Dr. Kristin Neff & Christopher Germer PhD

Happier: Learn the Secrets to Joy and Lasting Fulfillment
Tal Ben-Shahar

The How of Happiness: A New Approach of Getting the Life you Want
Sonja Lyubbomirsky

Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics: A 10% Happier How-t0 Book
Dan Harris

Parenting

Blessing Of A Skinned Knee
Wendy Mogel, Ph.D.

Everyday Blessings
Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn

Too Much Of A Good Thing
Dan Kindlon, Ph.D.

The Childhood Roots of Adult Happiness: Five Steps to Help Kids Create and Sustain Lifelong Joy
Edward M. Hallowell M.D.

Creating New Habits

Better than Before
Gretchen Rubin

Atomic Habit
James Clear

Deep Work
Cal Newport

Co-Dependency

How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving
David Richo

Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life
Henry Cloud

Anxiety

Change Your Brain, Change Your Life: The Breakthrough Program for Conquering Anxiety, Depression, Obsessiveness, Lack of Focus, Anger, and Memory Problems 
Daniel G Amen

Time

Timeshifting
Stephan Rechtschaffen, M.D.

Slow is Beautiful
Cecile Andrews

Take Back Your Time
John de Graaf

Work to Live
Joe Robinson

The Time Bind
Arlie Russell Hochschild

In Praise of Slowness
Carl Honore

The Slow Fix
Carl Honore

Bored and Brilliant
Manoush Zomorodi

The Little Book of Hygge: Danish Secrets to Happy Living
Meik Wiking

The Joy of Missing Out: Finding Balance in a Wired World
Christina Crook

Spirituality/Self-help

Whenever You Go There You Are
Jon Kabat-Zinn

It's Easier Than You Think
Sylvia Boorstein

It's a Meaningful Life It Just Takes Time
Bo Lozoff

The Places That Scare You
Pema Chodron

Long Quiet Highway

Natalie Goldberg

Self-Compassion

Kristin Neff, Ph.D.

The Seeker's Guide

Elizabeth Lesser

Simplifying, Organizing & Creativity

Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui
Karen Kingston

The Simple Living Guide
Janet Luhrs

Happier at Home
Gretchen Rubin

Technology & The Brain

The Shallows
Nicholas Carr

Dot Calm: The Search for Sanity in a Wired World
Debra Dinnocenzo and Richard Swegan